Mastering Non-Attachment

I am far from mastering non-attachment, but recent experiences have definitely shown me that I am well on the road.

So what is non-attachment?  One thing it is not is disassociation, however there is a fine line between the two.  Non-attachment is, in my opinion, the ultimate form of presence, going hand in hand with surrender; appreciating, enjoying and being grateful for what you have in the present moment, and that’s it.  No worry about the future, no anxiety from the past, no attachment to the outcome.  Whereas, dissociation can be very similar, but guarded by experiences of the past or worry about the future, which limits joy, pleasure and fully experiencing.  

Non-attachment also applies deeply to honoring ourselves and speaking our truths.  When we limit ourselves with fear, or attachment to an outcome, we are robbing ourselves of potential and keeping ourselves in a box.  There is so much strength and power in showing up completely as you, dimming yourself for no-one, honoring all that is you and speaking your truth.  Some will be able to receive you, some won’t, which quite honestly, makes life so much easier.

In the past, I’ve known and had the tools to practice non-attachment but most definitely done a poor job at it, leading to less than desirable experiences.  Attached to a certain quality of a partner, attached to a vision, attached to material possessions, attached to a personal truth, attached to people in an unhealthy manner, attached to future plans, attached to a certain vision for my life in general, leading me to micro-manage and control every aspect of my life rather than flow with the Divine plan and surrender.

Practicing the art of surrender has shown me just how attached to all of the above I have been and by releasing the attachment to pretty much everything I valued in the past, it seems the doors to infinity have been opened, as not a day has passed recently that I haven’t experienced anything short of miraculous. I am in awe of just how good life is, while literally having nearly nothing, showing me just how Divinely supported I am.

I recently collaborated with a friend on creating a non-attachment formula:

Faith in the Divine;

Positivity, knowing that all is part of the Divine plan; 

Transparency.  Being vulnerable and authentic in your entirety.  Showing up as you, fully, in all your glory, dimming yourself for nobody and accepting those who are unable to receive your truth without disturbing your peace.

Extreme gratitude for the experience and what you physically have in the present moment, taking it all in and actually experiencing, fully present;

Releasing attachment to outcome;

This equals non-attachment.

In short, to me, non-attachment equals BEING.

In service to others, there is a need for deep connection and even a level of non-sexual intimacy required with those I serve, depending on in what way I am serving.  As an energetic protection, non-attachment must be exercised, for the well being of all parties involved, and it is my duty to facilitate the environment that fosters this way of being.  I am sure there are deeper layers to non-attachment and I am sure the formula will be modified in the future as I continue down this road learning non-attachment, but I am growing and flowing and I am ever so grateful for this journey.